I will praise my body for being healthy and strong enough to give birth, feed and care for my baby. It's easy to get caught up in what our bodies are not. However, when we spend all of our time focusing on losing the baby weight, or on rediscovering our, sadly non-existent, abs (speaking from personal experience here), we lose sight of everything our bodies have done and continue to do every day. Our bodies have so much more to offer than just perky boobs and a flat stomach.
I will look in the mirror and give myself at least one compliment every day. Doing the opposite is so much easier, I grant you, but why are we doing that crap to ourselves. I know you're all hot mamas and there has to be at least one thing you like about your bodies. If you're still having trouble, ask a girl friend because, I assure you, they will have a list of your finest attributes ready to go before you can even finish asking the question.
I will be more active with my family. Working out seven days a week is a great goal, but it's not always doable. If instead you resolve to play, to run, to wrestle with your kids, you'll be working out without even knowing it and having a blast in the process. If you have older kids, try signing up for some fun runs or walks together. Start family karate lessons. Go ice skating. From our fab city we can reach the mountains, the beach and our nation's capital in under two hours! If it ever stops being so frigidly cold, it will be great time to plan your next family adventure.
I will laugh more. We should all strive for more laughter our lives this year! Let's laugh more with our kids. Let's laugh more at ourselves. Let's see life for the crazy, sometimes painful, often joy-filled, roller coaster ride that it is and just laugh!
I will remove the words, "I'm fine", from my vocabulary. Sometimes you are just NOT fine! Be honest with your family and, especially, be honest with yourself. Talk to your spouse when you are angry or hurt. When a trusted friend or family member asks how you are and you're really struggling, by all means, share with them. You're not a burden to them. They love you and will gladly take time to be there for you. It's ok to not be ok all of the time.
I will make the invisible visible. The hardest part of motherhood has to be the mental workload. Someone has to remember to schedule the well check-ups, research preschools and remember to pick up a gift for some random two year old's birthday party. It's easy to ask your spouse to do the dishes or change the laundry, but all of this other invisible work typically goes unnoticed. The pressure to be on top of everything all of the time is exhausting! Get your spouse in on the invisible work by asking them to pick out that gift next time or to research and find a good and reliable babysitter. The world doesn't have to rest on your shoulders!